"Cultural Differences"

My supervisor, who is on leave magically showed up at work.  Why?  Because she was washing clothes and needed something to read so she drove to work to get work to take back home to read in between loads.  I beleive that this is all the information needed to make it very clear that we are completely different from them.  Laugh now. 

Soul Mates?

 R:  Do you believe in/ how do you feel about soul mates? Do you think everyone comes in your life for a reason or do you think that's just something we tell ourselves to make us feel better about getting involved with the wrong people?

 

 

T:  Yeah I'm not a big soul mate person.  I think relationships develop and there are very few people that don't have to adjust or edit some part of themselves in order to maintain a relationship.  I imagine that a soul mate would be two people who "just work" without all the effort we know a real relationship takes.

 

 

 R:  OK but do you think you can "miss out" on your soul mate? I mean are we meant to be with a certain person... does everything really happen for a reason?

  

T:  Let me take the word "soul mate" out to answer this.  I think there are a million people we can fall in love with on the planet, each sharing the same deep love most people crave.  The issue is most of us operate in a very small circle involving maybe 50 people and 10 romantic relationships (if that).  Given the sheer numbers, we trick ourselves into thinking that out of these 10, there is only 1 we are truly meant to be with.  Russell Simmons says that there is a very good chance that our blessings will come from a situation outside of our normal experiences.  I take this to mean in relationships that we can fall in love with an Australian surfer, a hood dude, a man in England or wherever we just need to open ourselves in understanding that there is an entire world of people out here and our love isn't limited to the 10 or so people we've been with.  Does that make sense?

 

 R:  yes makes complete sense. I guess I just keep trying to figure out why certain things happen in the order they happen especially bad situations.  But maybe it's not for me to understand and just for me to live it out

 

 T:  I'm gonna say this for the last time (OK not true, I will pressure you about it until you do it)...in fact, we are gonna go to Barnes and Noble today at lunch and get the audio version of Super Rich...every single doubt you have will be erased and you will understand why your relationships take the direction in which they do.

 

 

T:  I want to be very clear about this book and its impact it has had on my life.  My marriage is over and in the worst way possible but I am not angry, not bitter, and still very much love and have compassion for him.  Before reading this book, I didn't have any direction and had no idea how I was going to deal with the issue at all.  It taught me so much and how to evolve and embrace the world as it comes to me as well as how to be aggressive in what it is I want out of it.

 

R:  Well I just need for it to erase my memory... if Barnes and Noble has anything for that I'm down lol

 

T:  Yes, you need to HEAR the words.  I have the actual text book but hearing someone say it is 100 times more powerful.

 

 

 T:  Here's what I've been thinking about for the last month or so....take your fist and ball it up tight...that's the area in which most of us operate out of...now think about how big the world really is.  Why in the hell do we limit ourselves to that tiny amount of space and experiences??

 

 Raven:  But you keep saying that but I don't think I limit myself to certain things I'm a VERY open person and would date any type of race and/or try anything at least once.  Someone just needs to come at me.  I've been in situations where I've been open to dating other races but it never materialized.  I don't stand in one small group. I have friends from all over: hood, professional, upper, middle and lower classes.  I think I'm very diverse when it comes to mingling

 

 

 T:  Someone just needs to come at me << the problem.  You have to run after the world.  Stop waiting on people to find you. Look at what I'm saying figuratively.  I'm not suggesting that you don't know a variety of people but perhaps you are unconsciously attracted to the same type of person no matter his race or profession.

 

 

 R:  but that's what I'm saying not true.  Like just recently... well at xmas time I was at a party and very interested in my co-workers Indian friend... I started flirting with him.  but like I said nothing materialized.  I wasn't really saying someone has to come at me... I have NO problem with flirting but at the same time I'm not going to flirt with someone that I'm not interested in.  Nor will I continue to flirt with someone who doesn't seem to be interested in me.

 

T:  I agree with that.

 

 R:  maybe it's just not my time.  Everyone says that things happen for a reason and some things are meant to happen... but for some reason I can't wrap my head around that.  I just think we are humans living in this world and what we do is what we do and not "meant to happen".  but that thought scares me b/c I just keep making the wrong decisions so I feel like I'm F'ed b/c when it comes to dating I'm clueless but I'm an ACE in relationships guess that's why I want to be in one bad... not good with being alone and "dating"

 

T:  Have you ever thought about the energy you are putting out may not be receptive and impact your dating skills?  Have you ever been around people who were so full of vibrancy and good energy that even without speaking you wanted to be in their presence?  That's the person you want to be.  (We all want to be)

 

 R:  No I'm that person and people love me... that's not my problem.  the problem I have is that I don't like anyone or if I do I get too comfortable with them b/c I guess I'm used to being with someone.  so when I find someone I'm comfortable with I'm open but then they turn out to be someone I shouldn't be open with.

 

 T:  I think you are a vibrant person in all aspects expect for when it comes to love is what I'm saying.  When the conversation switches to love, marriage, and families I see you get into a funk.  What if you are radiating an energy in regards to relationships that aren't attracting the type of relationship you are yearning for?  Let's take it out of context for a sec...

 

 

T:  I want to be a business owner but it hasn't happened yet (partly because of my own poor time management) but when I get around people who have "made it" and live the life I hope to be living soon, I am inquisitive, eager and very engaging on how to learn.  I could turn into an instant hater but that vibe would not only hinder me but make me unattractive to deal with.  Showing my desire and willingness to move forward without slandering my current professional situation makes me a more attractive person to want to do business with.  Hopefully that makes my POV easier to understand.

 

 

 T:  So what I'm saying is, be honest about your desire to want true love but stop criticizing where you currently are in life.  Your honesty and good heart will shine through but you may be blocking your blessing because you are so down on yourself about love.  Be open.

 

 R:  You're right... Thanks 

 

Chic Smoking

Not a smoker. Never have been, never will be but it looks so damn chic in black and white photography. Here are some shots I like :)

All pics via Pinterest

THE SEARCH IS OVER!!!!!!!!!

Trophy Wife

Date: 2012-04-15, 8:17AM

Wanted: Trophy Wife. . .

I am looking to fill an immediate opening in my home, as soon as possible. The position will be demanding, but the perks of the job will absolutely outweigh the stresses of the day. Any applicants must be willing to perform a few simple day to day tasks. . .

First is to wake up every day in my arms. And even after we wake to lay there and enjoy that feeling of love and happiness. Before the kids bust through the doors, before the stress of the day even has a chance to make an appearance. . . just lay. After I am able to tear myself from your arms, you have an option: either enjoy a fine cup of loose leaf tea in bed, or by the fireplace. After. . . you make it through the tea, we get the kids ready for school, as a team. Pack lunches and snacks, get them dressed, breakfast as a family, and then off to catch the bus. At this point, I'll be off for the day for another day at the office. . . but I will never rush off without holding you in my arms as if it were the last time. . . and just when I am about to let go, hold you for a little longer.

At this point in the day, you have some flexibility. . . you could spend some time catching up on the book you are trying to finish. Or head straight to the gym, in the brand new company car (our your choosing of course). This may include, but is certainly not limited to, any number of Zumba/Yoga/Crossfit/etc classes desired. All membership fees and workout clothes will be included as part of your compensation package. After the gym, please make full use of the whirlpool tub to relax. Or, if you don't feel like the gym that day, head straight to the mall for some shopping or a pedicure or to get you hair done. . . all on the company credit card.

I hope your work environment will be suitable, as you will have your own corner office, with which you can fully focus on your writing career. Whether you are tinkering with a new concept, or putting the finishing touches on another masterpiece, this will be an ideal space with which to focus.

In the afternoon, you will have to pickup my son from preschool and perform an extremely important task. Have fun. Play in the playroom, take him to the park, play on the swing set, watch a movie with him. . . But be sure to save some of that energy for when my daughter gets off the bus. . .. And then the fun just continues. . . until I return home from the office. At this point I expect to be fully bombarded by my kids. . . dual hug style, knocking me to the floor, hands still full from just coming in the door. Once I regain my composure though, please be ready, because 8 hours of not being able to be by your side will be unbearable and my only thought in that moment will be to kiss you like it was our first and last kiss.

We'll take turns cooking dinner. . . and often will prepare the meal together. We'll eat as a family and listen to each other tell the stories of their days. After dinner, we'll spend time with the kids together. Playing board games, doing homework, practicing instruments, singing songs, doing artwork, reading stories, going for bike rides. . .. After getting the kids off to bed, please be prepared to receive a massage by the fireplace, while the stresses and noises of the day go quiet.

Other perks, in no particular order: surprise picnics, weekend getaways, nights out for movies/dinners/concerts/etc, my singing you songs and leaving you notes, unbounded support for you writing career, boots. . . lots and and lots of boots. . . A true partner, in every sense of the word. . . in life, parenthood, friendship, and love. Finally, it will be my job to create a life with you. . . completely and utterly consumed by both passion and love.

• Location: Ashburn, VA
• Principals only. Recruiters, please don't contact this job poster.
• Please, no phone calls about this job!
• Please do not contact job poster about other services, products or commercial interests.

Original URL: http://washingtondc.craigslist.org/nva/wri/2959244497.html

Listen to your man!

I'm writing this from bed and on my phone so my thoughts may be a little off but bare with me here.

I don't typically condone infidelity but I recognize that men are simple creatures and probably already told you everything they need in order to make them stay loyal, women just don't listen.

1. If your man starts making comments about your body, no matter how vague, consider that all the request you need to get your ass to the gym.

2. If he starts commenting on your hair, clothing or other cosmetic things, get a makeover quickly.

3. If you are snuggled up on the couch and you notice your head being pushed down ever so slightly...do it.

4. If he keeps ignoring your texts and calls all day, quit calling and texting.

5. If he begs you to STFU cause you start some bs argument daily, learn to STFU.

6. If he suggests more frequent sex, stop talking about being tired.

It's just about that simple.

Nite

Think Like a Man...or Lil Kim?!

(convo cuts in)

T:  hol up what the hell are my tactics?  If a man can make it crystal clear that all he wants to do is smash than so can I.

 T:  And I need you to explain my stubbornness in detail sir

 Man: I suggest you listen to me, as a man, if you do so I promise you will break every person you set out too

 T:  I would be a complete dummy to talk to a guy who stays talking about this that and the other shit he bought and smash for free!  huh?  That's stupid!

Man:  my point is, you have the attributes needed to REALLY get what you want, however your approach is a bit off kilter

I agree with your last statement

 T:  My approach is the same as men's...yall just don't like it thrown back at you and want to control the shots.

Man:  not at all, maybe some men but not all again, I agree with your last statement

T:  Thank you!

Man:  what you doing is not new, but how you are doing it is your method won't work with everyone, however with just a little instruction you will be good

 T:  Here's all I wanna know:  Why can a man be completely blatant about his intentions but I'm supposed to back end mine?  I don't want to play around with men and waste my time at dinners and shit.

 Man:  Here's the thing T, men and women are different; so you can't take what and why we do and apply it to a woman I'm not even thinking about me, remember I met you under different circumstances

 T:  No, men are just flucking confused.  They don't want drama and want a woman to be upfront.  But when they get that they are stuck on stupid cause they aren't running the show.

 T:  So....I need the man's Cliff Notes version of my approach.

Man:  You can't treat every man the same and you can't compare men to women; once you understand that you will dominate trust me, I do it 

 T:  Every man isn't the same

 Man:  That's to include every man with money if you listen and be willing to adjust I assure you will win every time

 T:  I'm still waiting on you to tell me what the play by play move is on this new plan

Man:  I'm still waiting on you to humble yourself and open up instead of talking fast and trying to act like you got everything figured out at 27

 T:  I have to be the most humble person in America!  I would bet money that if I was extra friendly with my lady parts BEFORE I asked for a meal, I would instantly be humble and sweet.

 (foolishness deleted and still no answer...men are still as retarded as I thought they were!)

Beyonce is Real!

I'm not a regular fan of hers but my co-author is and since she's decided to be open a Tumblr acknowledging to be a real person, I decided to share. Here are my favs!